Identity change = behavior change


Reader,

If you didn't keep your New Year's resolution, you're not a bad person. You're not lazy. You're not undisciplined. You're not weak.

You're just focusing on the wrong thing.

Most goals focus on a desired outcome:

  • "I want to get in shape."
  • "I want to stop doomscrolling."
  • "I want to read my Bible more."

But consider this: If naming the outcome was effective, everyone would be living a holistic, healthy life.

"Okay," you might think, "so I should focus on a process instead." Things like:

  • Picking the right diet
  • Rearranging your schedule
  • Committing to read more often

For a while, that process might feel like it's working. But those of us who've tried processes before know, all too well, that our will can only take us so far.

What we need to focus on instead is shaping our new identity.

  • Instead of "I'm trying to quit drinking," try "I don't drink."
  • When the desire to find relief in doomscrolling shows up, try thinking "I don't doomscroll. I read/walk/pray."
  • When you wake up in the morning, don't tell yourself "I should read my Bible. Instead, try "I'm someone who starts the day in Scripture."

Here's what's true: when we change our identity, we change our behavior. Not the other way around.

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Jake

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Dr. Jake Smith Jr.

I'm a faith-fueled formation coach & speaker who develops fully-formed leaders to become who they truly are and live with no regrets.

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