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Dr. Jake Smith Jr.

What if I don't like my primal question?

Published about 1 month ago • 1 min read

Reader,

The forces that drive our behavior — both wanted and unwanted behaviors — are explained really well by Mike Foster's 7 Primal Questions framework.

Over the past several weeks, I've been going through his framework, question by question. I'm even leading a live workshop on it tomorrow. Why? Because I think it's a great tool for people who want to understand and meet their deepest emotional needs.

Recently, one reader asked me, "But what if I don't like my primal question?" I thought that was a great question to answer in public. (Perhaps you've found yourself in the same boat!)

First of all, if your primal question makes you feel really uncomfortable, that's a pretty good sign you've got the right one.

I'll use myself an example. My primal question is, "Am I loved?" I really don't like to admit or own the fact that this is THE question my brain is asking when I walk into rooms and go to social events. That just feels so needy. It feels like I'm dependent on other people to make me okay. It makes me feel icky, and I don't like that at all.

But here's the thing: you can fall in love with your primal question once you learn to ground yourself in your primal truth.

My primal truth is: "I am loved." I know that God loves me. My wife has been proving for 24 years that she loves me. And even though my kids are teenagers, in that phase where they're pulling back from me and pushing for independence, I still know that they love me.

I may not be loved by every single person that I interact with in this life, but I am loved. And when I can ground myself in this truth, it really unlocks my giftedness. It unlocks the superpower that equips me to make a difference in the lives of others.

And when I'm living from that superpower place, that's when I can start to actually like and embrace my primal question the most.

If you want to learn how to do to this, there's still time for you to sign up and join me tomorrow. I'd love to help you discover your primal truth and help you take the first steps to a life grounded in your unique gifts.

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You are loved.

I am for you.

You've got this.

Jake

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