No one says "I do" to a life of walking on eggshells


Reader,

When I first developed the Living with Heart program, I didn't think of it as a potential tool for couples.

Did I believe that people's marriages would be impacted if they went through this program? Absolutely, and the feedback has consistently proven that belief. I just considered it to be a program for individuals. In fact, this mindset was so strong that Plumline's policy initially prohibited couples from attending the same group.

But over the years, people kept asking me if they could go through this material with their spouse. They didn't want to be the only one in the relationship who'd tasted the good fruit of this heart work.

So, in 2024, we decided to give it a shot. And boy are we glad we did. I was overwhelmed by just how powerful off an experience it was. So were our attendees, like Amber:

We were going through a tough season in our marriage when, by the grace of God, we found Jake. The Plumline marriage retreat gave us space to step away, work on ourselves, and begin healing the areas that were affecting our relationship.

The response we got, and the real change we saw in these relationships, prompted us to make the Living with Heart Marriage Intensive one of our regular offerings.

We have one more this year — to be held in November 13 to 17 at Inlet Beach, FL — and we have space for just one more couple to join us.

Not sure if it's a good fit for you? I get it. It's both vulnerable and daunting to show up at a retreat like this. Another attendee, Emily, can relate:

We didn’t know exactly what to expect at the marriage retreat, but we knew we were supposed to do it. Plumline gave us a Christ-centered space to go deep, get honest, and choose each other again. It opened a whole new level of connection in our marriage.

I've heard too many people lament that their marriage isn't what they thought it would be. It's not that they don't love their spouse (or vice versa): it's that they've fallen into a rut that's led to distance and disconnection. Both partners, whether they realize it or not, are exhausted by constantly walking on eggshells — and yet they don't know if a different kind of relationship is possible.

I'm here to tell you, "It is."

And if any of that sounds like something you want in your life, I hope you'll take a look at the details and then book a discovery call with me.

You are loved.

I am for you.

You've got this.

Jake

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Dr. Jake Smith Jr.

I'm a faith-fueled formation coach & speaker who develops fully-formed leaders to become who they truly are and live with no regrets.

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