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Do you feel like you have multiple primal questions?

Published about 1 month ago • 1 min read

Reader,

Why is it that you behave the way you tend to behave?

It's because you're carrying one of 7 Primal Questions around in your chest – a question that represents your deepest emotional need.

For those of you who are new to this list, I've been doing a series on this this framework that was developed by Mike Foster.

One reader asked a question that I thought was important to respond to:

What if I feel like multiple primal questions – or even all of them – apply to me?

The answer to that is: they do! We all have each emotional need represented by these seven primal questions.

However, when people hesitate to pin down one of these questions – to say "This is my deepest emotional need" – it's usually because of how vulnerable it is to take ownership like that.

I'll be the first to admit this. I'm a PQ3, which means that my primal question is, "Am I loveD?" It's SUPER vulnerable for me to admit I walk into every relational, social, or business context subconsciously asking that question. I just so feel so weak, so needy, so vulnerable when I admit that.

But that is also where the power is.

When I know what my primal question is, when I identify my deepest emotional need, now I can go to work on it. Now I can begin to take back my power. Instead of making everyone else responsible to answer my primal question with a "Yes," I can say, "You know what? I will take care of me. I will be responsible for myself and my needs."

And that's what ultimately unleashes my superpower, my primal gift.

If you're curious what it would be like to embrace that vulnerability and taste the freedom that it brings, join me this Saturday for a live, in-person 7 Primal Questions workshop.

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Keep going.

Jake

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